When does it stop being partly cloudy and start being partly sunny?
When do we stop looking at the negitive side of things and start being positive?
I chose this question because lately I've been noticing that most (but certainly not all) my peers look at the negitive side of things first, myself included. It might be just the typical teenage drama, but when do we learn what to get worked up about and what to let go? I think this concept extends into other things to. Our media for example. Turn on your TV and watch the news. Most things reported are not postive, although some are. When do we learn to have a positive mindset?
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Wow, I really like this question. I think that when we make a concious decision to be positive, that's when our life will start getting better. But idk.
ReplyDeleteI think you have to be postitve in your own mind and encourage the negative people around you to be more positive. Yes our society focuses on the negative, but unless someone steps in and says lets talk about something positive, then its not going to change. For learning to let things go I think it just has to be with learning and growing up and realizing in the end that sometimes its not worth it.
ReplyDeleteHappiness is hard work. It's also dangerous. Cynicism and skepticism are cool, and funny, and popular, and really really easy. Especially for us smarty-pants folks, who are usually observant enough and quick-witted enough to spot the flaw in what someone says and exploit it with our drollity.
ReplyDeleteI decided, during my angstiest of teenage years, that I did not want to be depressed any more. I was lucky enough to have a life that was not in any particular way depressing, certainly not compared to others' lives, and so there was no need for me to be a gloomy gus -- so I stopped. What worked for me was, first, making sure I was never completely idle and therefore totally bored -- since I am curious and competitive by nature, but also quiet and introverted, that meant reading books and playing video games, rather than watching oodles of TV -- because boredom leads to depression (and is the most ridiculous thing on the earth in this day and age, when there is so much to do! People weren't ever bored a thousand years ago -- and we have all their stuff PLUS books! And the Internet! And Legos!) -- and second, realizing that my own angst was, when you get right down to it, really f'ing funny. So I started laughing at myself, and listening to other people.
Another thing that has made me more positive: teaching. Actually teaching, as in talking to students about literature. The mechanical parts, like grading tests, have made me a bit less positive. Oh, and I stopped watching the news three years ago -- that's been nice, too. I don't listen to weather reports, either. That's what windows are for.
I think we stop being positive when it's hard to see what's there to be positive about. For example, last winter it was abnormally cold and everyone got sick of the cold and the ice and not being able to get anywhere because of the mass amounts of snow. A lot of people got crabby or depressed. Some people got really excited when it started to snow but after a while they got tired of it.
ReplyDeleteI started looking at the good side of things after I thought about the bad side. It was depressing, and made me worry. Unfortunately, looking at the good side also made me a hopeless procrastinater...
ReplyDeleteHumans now a days look at the worst possible outcome for a situation and think thats whats going to happen. So they over play it and get other people upset about it as well. Just look at the whole 2012 thing. That is f-ing rediculous, some Mayan guy probably went, "Why the hell am I doing this again? I'm not gonna be around that long anyways!!!!" and he probably through down his rock and hammer and stormed off!
ReplyDeleteSo I try to be optomistic about stuff and look at the bright side. Yes things could be alot worse, but things are only as bad as we make them out to be!
I mean I could fall off a cliff and break my legs and my arms,(knock on wood)but I would probably say (after a few curses)at least I didn't die!
So I don't know when other people do it but thats when I do.
I think it's all personality-related. I'm a pessimist. And I know that. But some people are majorly optimistic. If you search for the good in things, you'll find it. You'll only look for the positive if you've had a bad experience with looking at the negative. This is hard!
ReplyDeleteWhen you change your mindset.
ReplyDeletewhen you ummm yep okay
ReplyDeletedid you have to choose a hard question?! um i guess it just depends on what kind of person you are. it all matters if you are pessimistic or optemistic. yep i probably spelled that wrong.
ReplyDeleteIt varies on how your day was going previous to when you're asked. And if you prefer clouds or sun.
ReplyDeleteIt depends on if your days been good or crappy
ReplyDeletewhen the amount of sunlight exceeds 50% or when it is less than 50%
ReplyDeleteI agree with Austin, and I think some people do always look on the bright side, but just like bad news the pessimists get all the attention because more people notice them.
ReplyDeleteWhen pigs fly
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ReplyDeleteThings start getting better when they start getting better. I think the glass is half empty when u need the water adn u need it to last, but half full when ur already quenched and ur not thirsty anymore. It all depends on the situation. Its partly cloudy when u want it to be sunny, and partly sunny when u dont want the snow to melt. :P
ReplyDeletedeoends if its rainy and how cold it is
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